Finding the right church can be difficult, and if we’re honest, maybe we’d rather just stay home and make pancakes instead. I don’t blame you. Perhaps that’s why most people don’t even bother going to church anymore. It’s very tempting to be complacent in our faith and just slowly drift away. But we shouldn’t be like that. The church is a better place when we’re all together. You may have thoughts that lead you to believe that you are not needed or nobody cares, that is far from the truth! We are a community of believers, and we can’t do this alone.
I’m really glad you’re interested in finding a church. Perhaps you’ve been a believer for a long time and want to get re-connected or maybe you just moved to a new town, or perhaps you want to learn who God is. Whatever place you find yourself at today I’m happy you’re here and taking the time to read this. I’ll provide you with some insight and practical tips so you can get settled in as soon as possible.
First
Consider asking people in your neighborhood, work, or school. They may already know of a wonderful church they could recommend. And if they attend there, this could be a great option for you since they might be willing to introduce you to people and get you connected very quickly. But before you agree to go, make sure to do your research on the church and find out what they’re all about, and if it aligns with scripture.
Second
It’s faster to search online for churches in your area. Don’t immediately look for churches with high ratings or cool names, try to look past that and find out why they’re popular. You might end up finding a small church with not many ratings that you really like, so stay open minded.
Third
t’s a luxury to find something close to home but if you don’t, it’s ok. It’s better to drive a little further for a church you really like than to settle for second best. But whatever happens, make a point to be optimistic.
Forth
When you’re on the church’s website, after you’ve read what they’re all about and it meets your criteria, check to see what type of ministries they offer so you can get plugged in and meet people. Typically, churches have a lot of groups and sometimes their website doesn’t show everything available. Some examples of what you may find will be: a married couples group, singles group, college and young adult groups, elderly groups, and specialty ministries like Divorce Care, Grief Share, or Celebrate Recovery. You can also check what type of volunteer opportunities they have, it’s another great way to get involved and meet people. And I’m sure you have many talents to contribute!
Fifth
Watch a service online and listen to the worship music and the pastor’s communication style. If you are engaged during the whole online experience you’re ready for a visit. If you’re not 100% convinced that it’s the right church for you, then consider exactly what you didn’t like about the service.
Sixth
You may like the music and not care too much for the teaching or just the opposite may occur. Moreover, you may have to adapt and consider your expectations and your standards. As you know, no church is perfect, if they have nine out of the ten things you are looking for then stay, if not, keep searching.
Seventh
Make a point to always remember this… You will encounter many people at church, some good, some bad, and some are horrible but don’t let someone’s behavior be a reason for you to push God away. The church is filled with broken people, many of them have worked through their issues and they’re all good, while others are a hot mess, including the one’s who think they are perfectly fine.
Eighth
Take things slow when you meet new people, you don’t need to share anything personal or private with anyone unless you’re in the proper setting for that. Be conscientious of what you say and what you do and more than anything, just do your best to enjoy your time there. Remain optimistic, there’s a good chance you’ll find a phenomenal church filled with so many great people! Once you get plugged in by serving and joining a group, it will become like a second home for you. And that’s how it’s supposed to be!
Nineth
Once you arrive at the church for the first time you should feel welcome, greeted with warmth and kindness, and see people looking happy. If you don’t experience this on the first visit it’s ok, don’t take it personal but try to go back the following Sunday and see how things go. If you still notice that people are not greeting you and you don’t feel welcomed there, then just move onto the next church on the list. At some point you’ll eventually find something great, just don’t give up! And most importantly, while you’re searching, ask God to lead you to the right church and give you discernment. God hasn’t failed me, He certainly won’t fail you either!
Tenth
Depending on the church and where it’s located you might find that it has a larger racial demographic when compared to another church, and normally this is not an issue. If you like to explore and meet new people outside of your own ethnic background I think that’s wonderful. I also believe that you would bring a lot of joy wherever you go! But on that note, keep in mind that some people may not be so welcoming. You might encounter that a particular church is more of a cultural gathering instead of a group of believers. If you encounter this, don’t take it personal, that narrow minded behavior was an issue way before you arrived. So just move on and keep smiling. Having a good attitude on this journey will get you to your destination sooner than you think, so stay encouraged.
Depending on where in the world you’re located, here are some great churches you can check out in the meantime:
Additionally, you can use the church locator found here.
