Dating Profile Tips For Women

For quite a few years, many of my single female friends have told me how difficult it is to find a good man. They have been frustrated by the men they’ve met who are often very self-centered, immature, and perverted. I personally know that not all men are like that but sometimes I wonder what my single friends have been doing to attract these types of men. Perhaps you’ve been wondering the same thing. That is why I want to share these dating profile tips for women, so you can have a better understanding of the male mind and “hopefully”, make a few adjustments to your approach if necessary. 

Before we begin, I want you to know that I’ve personally invested a lot of time on a few dating apps and I’ve witnessed many great profiles that are truly perfect. The women who created those profiles will certainly find the right man at just the right time, I honestly believe that! But for the rest of the women who created those other profiles, I sincerely hope they get to read this article.

What you are about to read may be difficult to grasp or believe, as with many things in life, the truth is not always easy to accept. However, if you are willing to learn these important principles and apply them, you will find more meaningful relationships and have a happier life.

Understanding The Male Mind: How to Begin

Before we begin with building a dating profile to “attract the right guy”, we need to start with the basics. Men are pretty simple to understand for the most part, yes, some can be complicated and difficult to figure out just like some women are, but us men have some pretty basic desires and needs. First, men have hormones that drive them physically, emotionally, and mentally, to crave sex while also being naturally wired to search for beauty. This search for beauty can have men come across as perverts or creeps but many women don’t understand that the male mind can be captivated by sexual attraction.

Important note: It is unacceptable for any man to knowingly behave like a creep or pervert. If you ever experience this, don’t be afraid to tell that person that they’re making you feel uncomfortable. Be sure to point out exactly what they are doing wrong and how it is making you feel. Try to give them the benefit of the doubt, since many of us, men and women alike, have blind spots in our social skills.

A man’s search for beauty

I’ll give you a simple illustration of this. Just imagine that you are stranded on a deserted island and you have only a handful of grass to eat per day, but more than anything in the world you are craving a juicy hamburger, fries, and a soda, however, all you have is grass!.. for months!!! Just grass!.. Nothing but grass. But on one special day you become rescued by the coast guard and the first meal they give you is a freshly prepared, amazing hamburger, with fries and a soda. It’s like heaven on earth for a couple hours. Now, that is how a man feels when he sees a beautiful woman that is his “type”. He is drawn to her in a deep and meaningful way but unfortunately, it may come off as weird or perverted sometimes. 

Yes, I recognize that some men are creeps, weirdos, and perverts but I believe they never want to be perceived like that. There are still many good men out there, men who are gentlemen, who have manners, but it can be challenging to ignore a beautiful woman, with the exception of a small group of men who make it a daily habit not to lust after a woman.  

If you want to learn more about this topic, check out our article: Simple Tips for Understanding Men

How To Attract The Right Guy

If you love shopping as most women do, you have a basic understanding of the power of marketing. Consider a beautiful piece of jewelry where the lighting is perfectly aimed to bring out the sparkle of the diamonds. Or the pretty dress on display, with the name brand you love and your favorite phrase… ON SALE!! 

With just the right lighting and emotional appeal, you can have anyone buy just about anything you want if your end goal is making money. But how about getting the guy!? What can a good woman do to get a good man? What kind of marketing tactics can she use to attract one? Well, if you are beginning to see a correlation here you quickly understand the basic laws of attraction. 

I’ll get to the point. As you previously read, men are wired for sex and drawn to beauty. If in your dating profile you post pictures of yourself that are provocative, sexy, and show a lot of your boobs and butt, you should not be surprised that men will be drawn to you. You might think you’re posting cute, innocent pictures of yourself but the problem is, you just set off a chain of events inside the male mind and now he just wants sex. 

At this point you just short-circuited the healthy process of meeting a good man because based on the message you are sending him through your pictures, you’re saying: “hey, I’m here to have sex with you, do you like what you see”? 

This Is The Marketing Aspect of Dating

You will attract what you promote. If you don’t want to meet men who only want to have sex with you then stop posting pictures of yourself like this. The male mind has an excellent imagination, there is no need for a woman to dress super sexy and show so much skin. Quite often, a woman who dresses seductively, wearing tight clothing and always showing cleavage is more likely to repel a good man, because he is looking for a woman he can trust, and not a woman who is willing to attract every man in sight.

How To Become Beautiful On The Inside

Have you had success attracting men based only on your outward appearance? If so, that’s fine at first but that type of interest is superficial. Yes, I believe beauty and outward appearance matter, and physical attraction is important but it shouldn’t stop there. I believe many women have a lot to offer but they sell themselves short and focus too much on the outside. 

From a wise man’s perspective, getting fake boobs, butt, and eyelashes show that she is trying too hard and has self-asteem issues. In addition to excessive piercings and tattoos, these just signal emotional damage. A smart and educated man knows the value of a drama-free life; he may find some of these accessories attractive but he has enough sense to not get involved with women who place so much emphasis on their outward appearance. The truth is, superficial people focus on superficial things. Don’t be that woman!

Instead, once you have established a balanced approach to health and beauty, find books on topics that you enjoy such as nature, science, fun hobbies, etc. Also, focus on growing your character and read biographies of women you admire. Learn to be a woman that a man actually wants to be with, a woman who has value and also values herself. If you’ve attracted a good man, you must keep him intellectually interested in you as well. It’s never too late to change into the woman who you want to become.

How To Create High Quality Photos For Your Dating Profile

Start With Good Lighting

Make it a priority to have your picture taken during the day, when there is plenty of natural light. Having one or two photos of yourself at night is ok but that depends on your skin tone and if there is decent lighting. You might have very pretty facial or physical features that get missed due to a lack of quality lighting. 

Focus On The Context Of Your Photos: Are You Really Ready To Begin Dating?

Consider the message that your profile picture is sending out to the world. Are you lonely, sad, and depressed that you are single? Well, don’t portray that in your photos. Psychologically healthy men are not attracted to sad looking women. If you are “hoping” for a man to rescue you from your unhappy life it might be a better time for you to take a few months off dating and focus on what’s really bothering you and find healing from past issues. No man can fix your problems and no relationship can heal your soul. You have to be willing to put in the work to get yourself ready for a healthy dating relationship.

Keeping It Simple

You don’t need to travel to a world heritage site or take a cheesy picture next to a car you don’t own. Just a simple photo of yourself outside sitting on a park bench is fine. There’s no need to wear a pound of makeup on your face or wear an expensive outfit. Just be you! A real man wants to see the real you! A little makeup or accessories here and there is fine and could be cute but just don’t over do it. Show your sense of style and personality. 

Facial Expressions 

This is an important aspect of every dating profile picture and should not be ignored. So now that you have your outfit and location picked out, what type of expression do you want to have? Should you look like a famous actress or musician, or do that popular thing everyone is doing with their lips? Umm… No!! Duckface is out and looks stupid. Pursing your lips in a certain way can also look strange and make you look dumb. 

There is no need to place so much emphasis on looking like a model with an eccentric expression, just be you and don’t over think it. A gentle smile or a natural grin works great. A candid photo of an authentic laugh or huge smile works great too. Men know what looks natural and what doesn’t. Aim for authenticity.

Body Language

Men are attracted to femininity, so be mindful of your body language and your posing. For example, if you choose the park bench as your photoshoot location, be sure to maintain a very natural looking posture and relax on the bench as you normally would when nobody is taking your picture. Focus on simple, cute, or fun, but just don’t be fake. You’re not modeling for Estée Lauder, your goal is to attract a real man with good taste. Let him discover the REAL you.   

How To Write Something Meaningful In Your Dating Profile

You can keep it sweet and simple. Most men don’t rush to read what you wrote in your profile because your photos already tell the story. For example, if you have a few photos of yourself laughing with friends but always have a drink in your hand, we’ll know that you like to have a good time but you’re probably an alcoholic. Or if you have a few photos of yourself lying on the couch or in bed, we’ll think that you just want sex or you’re just lazy and unmotivated to get out of the house and live your life. 

These perceptions may seem a little harsh or extreme but you want every aspect of your profile to have a positive impact. Not all men attempt to psychoanalyze a woman through her dating profile however, you must keep in mind that your “entire” profile is telling a story so make sure you’re not sending out the wrong message about yourself. When in doubt, focus on high-quality photos and leave the written portion blank.

Keeping Your Private Life, Private

Many dating apps offer the ability to connect your Instagram account or related social media connections, however this should be avoided. Keeping your private life “private” is always the best and “safest” way for a woman to have an online presence in the dating world. There are stalkers and weirdos out there who do not understand social norms or respectful boundaries.

Also, you don’t want to appear so desperate for attention that you show off your Instagram account just to gain more followers. Instead, be wise and have a sense of propriety.

Conclusion

It is our hope that you would be willing and open to learn the first step to meeting a great guy. These insights have been provided to bring you one step closer to finding that special someone no matter what stage of life you’re in. 

If you’ve been hurt by a man in the past and continue to experience one bad relationship after another, then it’s time to dedicate this entire year to your personal growth and begin your healing journey.

Having an open heart and a desire to grow will help you and your future man have a meaningful-healthy relationship.

We wish you love, joy, peace, and fulfillment in this season of your life and we are hopeful for your happily-ever-after. 

Stay encouraged!

-The Ads4Dads Team

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